I am a successful black man. I am successful career wise, social
wise, and financially. I`ve been investing in the market since the
mid-80`s when I received my bachelor`s degree and have really
reaped the benefits.
Due to this, I have been able to pay off student loans, finance
graduate school without additional loans, pay for my home,
automobiles, and still keep money in the bank. The lessons on
investment I got from my dad (R.I.P.), even though he was a
custodian - he knew how a black person could “turn ground beef
into T-Bone” through simple, sane, and consistent investment.
So, I`m doing well on that end. I work out and keep my body in
good shape. Plus, I don`t smoke and drink once in a great while. I
love life and am determined to get the most out of it. I also believe
in God and attend church every Sunday.
I date white women exclusively. Well, I should say “non-African
American women” exclusively. I have dated women of
Hispanic-American women, Asian-American woman, and am
currently in a serious relationship with a woman of Middle Eastern
descent. I can`t say whether or not that relationship will work out.
But, I can say that I have no plans and foresee no plans of EVER
dating African-American women again.
So, I guess I`m what you call a sell out. Why? Well, as little as 3
years ago - I felt that black men who dated white women were
sellouts. Strongly believed it, vocally endorsed it, and said it. In
fact, I met a beautiful white woman in 1993 who was very
attractive, had a sparkling personality, and beautiful red hair. We
got along well and when she wanted more, I backed off ONLY
because she was white. She moved on, met, and married a white
guy and they have 2 beautiful kids now.
Black women are not bitter just because we desire quality partners. Women’s standards and desires for men do not magically become “unreasonable” when a Black woman has them, then reasonable again if a non-Black woman has them. The only way this would be true is if the world is confirming that Black men are permanently inferior, thus anything Black women could want is not possible, thus making us “unreasonable.” Black men should reject this, versus applauding anytime the media suggests that we are “unreasonable.”
In the 11 months since Mitrice Richardson stepped out of the Lost Hills/Malibu Sheriff’s Station into the early morning darkness and vanished hours later, the mystery of her whereabouts twisted around false sightings from the ocean to Las Vegas.
Was that her at the Abbey in West Hollywood in late September? Or was she the badly burned body in a dumpster behind a building in Santa Fe Springs in October? Did her father really see her on a sidewalk near a Motel 6 in Las Vegas in January? Did a friend come across her in June in a Las Vegas hotel bar?
n her absence, she became a fixture on cable TV talk shows, the focus of debate over the sheriff’s station’s seemingly thoughtless decision to release a young woman without a car near a rugged canyon.
Richardson’s mother, Latice Sutton, was skeptical of some of the sightings, particularly the most recent one in Las Vegas. She said that authorities should keep searching the area where her daughter went missing.
In the end, she was horribly right. On Thursday, Los Angeles County Sheriff Lee Baca confirmed that the skeletal remains discovered Monday in Malibu Canyon were those of Mitrice Richardson.
"The circumstances of this case are tragic," a somber-faced Baca told a news conference. "I am mindful of the fact that a mother and father are in deep grieving at this moment."
The saga started when Richardson was unable to pay an $89 dinner tab at Geoffrey’s restaurant in Malibu and the staff called the Sheriff’s Department. She was arrested and her car impounded. She was released from custody early Sept. 17 without her cellphone or purse — neither of which she had on her at the restaurant when she was arrested.
Her parents and critics contend that she should have been held longer for a mental health evaluation after she acted bizarrely at the restaurant.
Why Richardson even went to Geoffrey’s remains as much a mystery as how she ended up in a steep-sided ravine, her badly decomposed body discovered only because park rangers were on a patrol of the area for illegal marijuana plants.
Sheriff’s officials say there is no sign of foul play. Nor do they believe she fell to her death. A spokesman for the Los Angeles County coroner’s office estimated that her remains had been there at least six months, or possibly the entire time she had been missing.
Over several months, law enforcement officials carried out four searches covering a total of 40 square miles of Malibu Canyon.
Rap music videos consistently cause controversy for the sexual content. In these music videos, black women are objectified and stereotyped. The Journal of Women’s Health decided to analyze the affects of these stereotypes in Images of Sexual Stereotypes in Rap Videos and the Health of African American Female Adolescents. The young black women surveyed were selected from low income, high crime neighborhood. Self-administered surveys were given out at a family medical clinic. The researchers found that adolescent young girls who saw more sexual stereotypes in rape music videos were more like to participate in binge drinking, use marijuana, have multiple sexual partners and have lower self esteem.
The results of these findings are not shocking at all. Rap music has often been criticized by the content in the music videos. The negative stereotypes are unavoidable. Scantily clad women with exaggerated features are a staple in the current rap music video. Young black women in poor neighborhoods are forced to live up to this stereotype. Because they don’t see any other images of young black women, they feel like being highly sexualized is their only option.
Anyone who has been meticulously perusing prominent Black websites over the past week or so has probably come across an article that was written by Orville Douglas. Douglass is a Black Canadian journalist who has made national and international headlines with a recent column discussing the self hatred he has internalized and consumed due to the fact that he is Black. Yes indeed, the Black blogophere (and all other avenues of social media) have been dutifully dissecting, critiquing, discussing and certainly reacting and responding to Mr. Douglas’s article. Douglas has engaged in stroke of public relations genius.
Mild sarcasm aside, no one can deny that his piece has punched many Black cultural and political pundits as well as readers directly in the face with its frank, intense, brash, unrelenting, searing and in many cases witnessing heartbreaking prison that has gripped this young Black man with a vehement level hate, disgust and resentment, both toward himself and those who share his racial heritage. His recent interview with CNN commentator Don Lemon was candid and engaging. I will admit that when I first read his article, I was stunned. In fact, I had to reread the piece to make sure that my eyesight was not blurred or that my imagination was not running wild. A second thorough read confirmed that what I had previously read was indeed accurate. My sanity was still intact.
What negative perceptions have you heard about black men and women?
"I’ve heard countless ‘men ain’t no good stories.’ One reason I feel black men are scared of commitment is because they never learned how to love a woman. A lot of men and women are raised in broken homes, and these become our examples of what a relationship is.” —MICHAEL, 44, Black, single
"I’ve heard black women are bitter and disappointed because they’ve met a brother who’s not stepping up. Meanwhile Black men whine about the struggle of the black man and bring the fight back home, resentful if you’re successful and feeling as if you have to be submissive so they can be the king somewhere."—SOLI, 46, Biracial, recently single